Suburban Heat and Hate

What is the focal point of arguing the merits of staying together for a purpose when only one of you is willing to stay while the other is desperate to go away?

In this context, merely saying 'Do not think of the reasons why it will not work, just find one reason why it will, then make it work' no longer applies and will never be applicable such that one simply cannot make it work without the participation of the other. Relationships work because two people are working together pitching up and taking each other's mess while advocating continous fun and laughter as they both trudge along.

Men sometimes get caught up in a whirlwind of emotion. They are blinded for quiet a long time. But as soon as they begin to wake up, men seek to reform and reestablish a feasible path toward a working and realistic relationship.

Women on the other hand, have a habbit to dream of a fairy tale life. They get caught up in a twister of feelings, sending them head over heels on some dude they met out of nowhere. Suddenly, someone gets boring and bastard in his ways while this dude is soo cool and so nice to spend time with. When they wake up from this sudden influx of emotions, when things get to settle at its pre-hyper levels, women tend to stick to their butt and do all they can think of to make it work.

This made me ask, if you want an apple , which is easier, plant an apple tree, nourish it until it bears fruit or prune an already grown up and trusty tree, add fertilizers and enjoy the shade while waiting for the fruit?

Women tend to prefer planting a new one. Men on the other hand (those that i knew of) mostly prefer making use of the old trusty tree because they know they have gone through all the hassle of getting it grow. It only needs some touch and it will bear again (personally, not that i am too sentimental but i would rather find a hundred ways to get a trusty old tree loaded with fine fruit rather than find another good seed and plant it hoping as it grows, its branches will stay with us and not cross someone else's lot).

Newly planted tree would soon need pruning. It's leaves would soon turn golden brown. Will this mean a new planting season again?

Not the best idea, my dear. There is so much pleasure and joy in life that you sure to miss if you keep on starting all over again. Perhaps there are benefits from a fresh start but as always, wisdom and understanding comes with age. An aged wine in the cellar (despite the dust and the old woody smell) would always prevail over the freshly made ones (with much fancy of course!).

So what's with this suburban blah blah i'm writing about?

It's simply that one tiny voice you keep on hiding because you fear on something. Let that voice be heared and share your world. You would never know, you are being watched closely so at the right moment, someone will be tagging along with you, then you are prepared to say, 'Hey, it's nice of you to come by, but i've already decided to be a company of someone else, You may please go your way while i'll go with mine...'

Speaking of determination!