A point to start with is the very aspect of our relationship among our peers. In one way or another and in some point in time, we may have done something that acted as a catalyst resulting to a chain of events far from our observation and understanding. The very nature of “us” doing something that caused other people’s lives unnecessary burden is one thing; not essentially knowing what we have done and how it is related to the situation is another. If we get them side-by-side, we are trying to hang someone by the balls.
Consider a lousy performance of a friend in his favorite game. The moment the group is complete, someone would start asking “dumb” questions like “How was your game with that Mr. nobody?” (as if he was not there cheering with and booing along with the crowd) — a question that will now start a sporadic account of “dumbness” and irresponsibility minus the guilt. All along, this person might play with the crowd of people he labeled “Friends” but within the safe confines of his inner self, he was hurting — not because he did not excel in what he did but because here are his friends showing direct mockery of his misfortune without any form of remorse. The jokes and mostly boisterous laughter could hide any signs of weak emotions but to the person injured, every high tone of happiness in the form a gigantic grin is an unknowing insult of a friend to an already disheartened buddy.
What a way to show affection!
A bosom buddy making a bad situation even worse is a fiend.
Try patting the person in the back and say “It’s been a long day. Let’s move along to someplace so you can reflect your next assault.”
You would certainly get a sincere “thank you” for doing that.
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